Serial look-and-goers are a complete pain in the arse. You go to the trouble of getting ready and turning down other potential clients, only to have some bloke show up and claim he left his wallet in his car, never to return. These serial offenders do it either to get a free sneak peek at what they could have with their money or simply because they begrudge sex workers and want to piss them off.

Granted, if you do bait and switch or have photos that don’t represent the real you, some genuine guys will look at you and then leg it – but the serial look-and-goers are hard core and treat it as a hobby.

But now there’s some new angles on the original look-and-go that you need to be aware of, if you’re not already.

The Bank Transfer

They come into your room and then suddenly produce their phones and ask if a bank transfer is ok knowing darn well it’s probably not. (You can get fake anything nowadays, so don’t trust that the bank details on his phone are the real thing. Some rapists and sexual assaulters use this method, so be aware.)

So much better than the wallet excuse because then they get to come in, have a good look around and maybe give you a little bum-slap. All for free. What’s not to like?

With this particular method, we have heard of some sex workers calling the punters’ bluff and saying that they do indeed accept bank transfers, only for the dead-beat to stutter that he’s forgotten his bank details so will have to leave. It’s good to call their bluff in this way because if they start to go through with the transaction, you’ll know they’re just a bit dim-witted and it’s not a deliberate act of harassment and economic sabotage (we jest but there’s some truth to that). But if they scarper, you can report them to the usual channels so that other escorts don’t get their time wasted.

Main takeaway: Tell them via text or phone call which payment methods you accept.

The Extreme Service Not On Your List

This one is really bad: The guy shows up, possibly gets undressed and only then asks the escort if she will pee all over him and share a glass of it between them, knowing, again, that she probably doesn’t offer that “service”. He then says he doesn’t want the booking to continue, snatches his money back, legs it and feels so proud, he goes online to brag about it. This is actually illegal to do.

These are really low things to do. We know that punters vary from these incel types to genuinely lovely guys, and it’s the former who are breaking the law when they strip off, kiss you and then snatch their money back when the escort won’t do certain things that the punter is asking for. It’s just a way to get as much as they can for absolutely nothing.

So What Can You Do?

Some sex workers who use Client Eye and see that the idiots do this on a regular basis have been getting a little bit of revenge by accepting their bookings and sending them on a wild goose chase to give them a taste of their own medicine. :).

You cannot film someone nude without their knowledge but having CCTV in the hallway or by the door is always a good idea. You can get dinky CCTV cameras for about £30 on Amazon. If someone has used the Extreme Service Request trick and takes his money back after he’s laid his hands on you, you could go to the police, especially if the incident has left you feeling alarmed and distressed.

Or maybe just send the video clip of his mugshot to his phone and ask for your money back. Fairs fair.

With the Bank Transfer plot, there’s not really a lot you can do in legal terms. Not unless they have touched you and have no intention of paying. But as we know, police resources are stretched and they need to get the dangerous guys. However, we would say that the look-and-goers can start off being just an irritant and then when they get away with it, go on to do more dangerous things. After all, anyone that gets their kicks this way has a deviant side to their personality.

Sex workers are vulnerable in these situations because they are usually dressed in skimpy clothing when they answer the door, so it’s not as if they can run down the road after the guy or sneakily follow him to get his car reg. Obviously if you are dressed appropriately, you can do this, but in the real world of sex work bookings, most escorts aren’t going to assume that the next guy who turns up is going to be a look-and-go and be prepared.

You could ask for the money as soon as they walk through the door, although this might make the punter experience a bit too formal for their liking.

At the end of the day, the easiest thing you can do is to report them to Client Eye. Yes they will change their SIM cards but it won’t take long before the new one gets reported, so at least it’s an inconvenience for the bad guys who do this!

And if you are organised and savvy, get that CCTV cam installed in your hallway/entrance, and voice record the session so you have evidence if anything goes wrong. You can record conversations in the UK so long as it’s for your own personal use, and you should be able to use it in a court of law if doing so is in the public interest, which it will be if your man is dangerous. If he runs off without paying, the CCTV will capture his image. It’s high time these incel cretins realised they cannot get away with this.

Respect the guy if he is ok and delete everything.